If You Think I’m going to be Flattered by your Visit You’re mistaken

“After dinner they went into the sitting room, where the cook announced the Viscountess de Montmort.  This lady, naturally, did not associate with the middle-class people of the village; she wouldn’t invite them into her home any more than she would her farmworkers.  When she needed a favour, however, she would come to their homes to make the request with the simplicity, ingenuousness and innocent superiority of the “well-bred.”  The villagers didn’t realise that when she dropped by, dressed like a chambermaid, wearing a little red felt hat with a pheasant feather that had seen better days, she was demonstrating  the profound scorn she felt towards them even more clearly than if she had stood on ceremony: after all, they didn’t get dressed up to go to a neighboring farm to ask for a glass of milk.  Her deception worked.  “She’s not stuck-up,” they all thought when they met her.  Nevertheless, they treated her with extraordinary condescension–and they were just as unaware of it as the Viscountess was of her feigned humility.

Madame de Montfort strode into the Angelliers’ sitting room; she greeted them cordially; she didn’t apologise for coming so late; she picked up Lucile’s book and read the title out loud: Connaisance de l’Est by Claudel.

“Very good indeed,” she said to Lucile with an encouraging smile, as if she were congratulating one of the schoolgirls for reading The History of France without being forced to.  “You like reading serious books, very good indeed.”

She knelt down to  pick up the ball of wool the elder Madame  Angellier  had just dropped.

“You see,” the Viscountess seemed to say, “I’ve been brought up  to respect my elders; their background, their education, their wealth mean nothing to me;  I see only their white hair.”

Meanwhile, Madame Angellier, with an icy nod of the head, barely moving her lips, invited the Viscontess to sit down.  Everything inside her seemed silently to scream, “if you think I’m going to be flattered by your visit you’re mistaken.  My great-great-grandfather might have been one of the Viscount de Montmort’s farmers, but that’s ancient history and no one even knows about it, whereas everyone knows the exact number of hectares of land your dead father-in-law sold to my late husband when he needed money; what’s more, your husband managed to come back from the war, while my son is a prisoner.  I am a suffering mother and you should be showing respect to me.”  To the Viscountess’s questions she replied quietly that she was in good health and had recently heard from her son.

“You have no hope?” asked the Viscountess, meaning “hope that he’ll soon come back home.”

Madame Angellier shook her head and raised her eyes to heaven.

“It’s so sad,” said the Viscountess and added, “We’re going through such hard times.”

She said “we” out of that sense of propriety which makes us pretend we share other people’s misfortunes when we’re with them (although egotism invariably distorts our best intentions so that in all innocence we say to someone dying of tuberculosis, “I do feel for you, I do understand, I’ve had a cold I can’t shake off for three weeks now”).

“Very hard times, Madame,” murmured Madame Angellier coldly.  “We have a guest, as you know,” she added, indicating the next room and smiling bitterly.  “One of these gentlemen…you’re putting someone up as well, no doubt?”  she asked, even though she and everyone else knew that thanks to the Viscount’s personal contacts there were no Germans at the chateau.

The Viscountess did not reply to this question, but said indignantly, “You will never guess what they have had the nerve to request….access to the lake for fishing and swimming!  And I , who love the water so much, will be forced to stay away all summer.”

“Are they forbidding you to use the lake?  Well that’s a bit much,” exclaimed Madame Angellier, vaguely comforted by the humiliation inflicted upon the Viscountess.

“No, no,”  she insisted, “on the contrary, they behaved quite correctly.  Please tell us when we may use the lake so we will not disturb you,” they said.  “But can you imagine me running into one of those men in my bathing suit?  You know they even eat half naked?  They take their meals in the courtyard of the school with bare chests and legs and wearing a kind of jockstrap!  The older girls’ classroom looks out over the courtyard so they have to keep the shutters closed so the children don’t see…..what they shouldn’t see.  And you can imagine how pleasant that must be in this heat!”

She sighed; she was in a very difficult position.”

–Irene Nemirovsky, Suite Francaise, 1941

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New Bling for Spring at Penelope’s!

New Bling is in at Penelope’s…all the best we found on our shopping trip to Atlanta Gift Market!  The bigger the better, with jewel tones and crystals and sparkle! 

Pearly bracelets with dangling glass hearts and charm bracelets with many glass charms….

Enameled bracelets with rhinestones and gorgeous crystal bangles…large and larger!

My personal favorite of all the finds….over-the-top Bling Rings!  They are huge and they are gorgeous….the best fashion statement of the season!

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What he loved in horses was what he loved in men

 ” He rode with the sun coppering his face and the red wind blowing out of the west.  He turned south along the old war trail and he rode to the crest of a low rise and dismounted and dropped the reins and walked out and stood like a man come to the end of something.

There was an old horseskull in the brush and he squatted and picked it up and turned it in his hands.  Frail and brittle.  Bleached paper white.  He squatted in the long light holding it, the comicbook teeth loose in their sockets.  The joints in the cranium like a ragged welding of the bone plates.  The muted run of sand in the brainbox when he turned it.

What he loved in horses was what he loved in men, the blood and the heat of the blood that ran them.  All his reverence and all his fondness and all the leanings of his life were for the ardenthearted and they would always be so and never be otherwise.

He rode back in the dark.  The horse quickened its step.  The last of the day’s light fanned slowly upon the plain behind him and withdrew again down the edges of the world in a cooling blue of shadow and dusk and chill and a few last chitterings of birds sequestered in the dark and wiry brush.”

—–Cormac McCarthy,  All the Pretty Horses

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Love Seeps into the Machinery of Life

  “Love is an ancient delirium, a desire older than civilization, with taproots stretching deep into dark and mysterious days…..Love, like truth, is the unassailable defense.  Whoever first said  ‘love makes the world go around’ (it was an anonymous Frenchman) probably was not thinking about celestial mechanics, but the way Love seeps into the machinery of Life to keep generation after generation in motion.  We think of love as a positive force that somehow ennobles the one feeling it.”

—Diane Ackerman,  A Natural History of Love

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From Paris to Portland Oregon: the fashion journey of a scarf

It takes five years for a new fashion item to go from the streets of Paris to the streets of Portland Oregon.  That’s what I was told at the Atlanta Gift Market this January.  And sure enough, I can vouch for this myself.  I was given a trip to Paris for my birthday in 2005.

This scarf was one of the treasures I brought back.  I bought it in a tiny little shop on a little side street in the Latin Quarter.  I loved the ruffles and the gorgeous silky fabric and the beautiful blue color.  I had seen several around Paris on fashionable Parisian women.  One of the things I love about Paris is people watching and part of that is looking at how people dress…the women of Paris have such beautiful style.   One of my favorite moments was walking down a street with my husband as we made our way to the Picasso museum.  I had on a lightweight knit blouse with stylish painted swirls across it…like a Monet painting.  A french woman walking towards us studied my top as she walked towards us and gave me a small nod of approval. 

Five years later, these scarves were spotted last fall in several high-fashion boutiques in Portland, Oregon.  I saw them at the Atlanta Gift Market for the first time this January.  They were gorgeous and well priced.  I thought they were a perfect fit for my shop Penelope’s Hope Chest.  I paid $18 euros in Paris (approximately $24).  My shop’s price….$12.95.

I put them out yesterday and have already sold three.  I plan to buy a teal scarf and drape it around a mirror….it could be a gorgeous home decor accessory as well!

The colors are vibrant and the ruffles remind me of an unfurled flower.  From Paris to Portland….

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Niceness Alone Doesn’t Cut It

“In our culture, people tend to be valued for being inspiring and entertaining.  With perhaps the notable exception of some morning-show hostesses, people are rewarded for being bold and inventive.  For being assertive, funny, and individualistic.  For having a bit of an edge.

Yet, when it comes right down to it, women are still encouraged to be, above all else, capital-N ‘nice.’  We learn that it’s more important to be nice than to be interesting.  It’s more important to be nice than to be ourselves.  It’s certainly more important to be nice than to keep it real….interestingly, throughout the 1990s, Republicans insisted that political races should be about ‘character.’  They elevated character to an ‘issue.’  The problem, however, was that the Republicans confused character with virtue—with being a  close-minded sniggling, sanctimonious do-gooder…well, as we’ve all learned, Americans aren’t really interested in character in terms of virtue or niceness.  We’re interested in character in terms of personality.  We’re a country that prefers Scarlett to Melanie and Rhett to Ashley.  We like our leaders large, colorful, mythic, entertaining.  We’re not nearly so compelled by leaders having character as by their being one….why else would people have voted for Ronald Reagan?  Or Sonny Bono? Or Jesse ‘the body’ Ventura? Why else would people prefer Bill Clinton to Al Gore? …..

Face it, if we really cared about character in terms of traditional virtue—if we really wanted our politicians to be goody-goodies—Mister Rogers would be president.  But on some level, we know: niceness alone doesn’t cut it.

And yet, here we women are:  still striving to be pleasing, sweet, cheerful, agreeable—we’re still hoping to get voted Most Likeable, even though that stuff won’t get us into the White House….’Good Girls’ are accommodating and giving.  Good girls don’t hurt other people’s feelings.  Good girls are not overly “aggressive,” competitive, or boastful.  Good girls please others.  But what good girls are good FOR is a good question.  I mean, it’s one thing to be decent; it’s another to be a doormat….

Nowadays, it seems, we gals are presented with two idealized modes of behavior.  We can either be nice or nasty, a pussycat or a bitch…in the long run, of course, neither choice serves us well.  We really shouldn’t have to choose.  Most of the greatest, most enduring women of our culture are hybrids.  Take Mae West.  Barbara Jordan.  Eleanor Roosevelt.  Julia Child.  Molly Ivins.  Queen Latifah.  They’re complicated women.  They’re not afraid to be strong, rich personalities.  And they’re not afraid to be ‘not nice.’  Beyond everything else, these women have got personality.  They’ve got chutzpah.  Sometimes they’re brash.  Sometimes they make mistakes.  Not everybody adores them—and they don’t really give a **** if everyone does.  But their appeal has endured—and in certain cases, their words, work, and influence have outlived them.  Why?  In part, because they refused to be constrained or confined to the roles of either a good girl or a bitch.  They’ve had the courage to be themselves.

So if you’re ever feeling cowed or self-conscious—if you worry about what people will think of you or whether you’re not being nice–think about the power and the importance of cultivating your own personality and keeping it real.”

——Susan Jane Gilman,

Kiss My Tiara: How  to Rule the World as a Smartmouth Goddess

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New Trends at Market in Atlanta

One of the best parts of going to Market every January is seeing the newest trends in home decor and seasonal decorations.  There’s ALWAYS something new..the challenge is deciding which trends apply to my store and show, and more importantly, which trends will actually sell.  This year at Market it was interesting to see which companies stepped up and challenged themselves to have new lines and looks, and which companies played it safe and carried pretty much the same things they did last year.  Guess which ones we ordered from?

The biggest look by far we called Paris Flea Market…it was tempting to call it Paris Industrial because there were many industrial components to it…..lots of stamped burlap and linen and rusty implements…washed out black and lots of textures and written words and images of vintage documents.

Of course you know a trend has really gone crazy when you see things like this….

A bed canopy made from burlap sacks!

The other new trend we saw everywhere at Market we called Elegant Cabin.  Lots of furniture made from antlers and high-end burnished wood pieces mixed with teal and tarnished silver.

Our very favorite showroom for inspiration is Harvest Goods….every year the showroom is transformed into a new treasure trove of vintage and new and whimsical elements…there’s nothing else like it in all of Market.  There’s so much to look at it’s hard to see everything..and it’s decorated from interesting tiles on the floor..to things hanging from the ceiling.  This year they had over-sized rusty bicycle wheels and lamps made from wine bottles.  It was difficult to photograph….but I wanted a reminder of just how amazing the displays were.

One of our favorite Christmas displays was a gorgeous whimsical tree all done up with collaged ornaments and text garlands.  It ties in nicely with the Paris Flea Market look.

We thought these pumpkins were really clever…..very elegant with black lace.  They have a great vintage appeal.

Another Christmas trend was turquoise….trees.  Flocked turquoise trees and rich teal trees…saw these tied in with the Elegant Cabin look and other places.  They have  a strong vintage feel. 

The other big Christmas trend we noticed was a monochromatic look…..red trees with red ornaments or gold trees with gold ornaments..and so forth.  They were stunning and over-the-top. 

We saw lots and lots of mice..for everyday decor and Halloween and Christmas.  Owls too… one showroom had just gorgeous owls we were very tempted to order.  They don’t quite fit our vintage outlook so we reluctantly passed.  While we did see many new things this year at Market,  it felt like there were far less new items.  It’s a sign of the times.  There were quite a few empty showrooms…more than we have ever seen before.  There were several companies we usually order from that we passed by this time.  They had nothing new or fresh this year.  We wrote the biggest orders with several companies who brought out fabulous new vintage-inspired items.  And today we received our first delivery….now the fun begins!

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Panda Party at Penelope’s

    Introducing three new friends at Penelope’s……..delightful handmade Panda bears by local artist KB Thomas.  Each bear is lovingly made with the best of materials, with mohair fur and glass eyes and merino wool or leather paw pads.  The pictures don’t do them justice…they are twice as cute in person!  She names each creation…meet TING ( it means graceful.)

Just in time for Valentines…..meet SHU (kind and gentle)

And last but certainly not least, meet ZHEN ( precious).  Much thought and love went into each of these panda bears…stop into Penelope’s Hope Chest soon to meet them.  You will fall in love!

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Pittypat’s Porch

   They are big in tradition here in Atlanta and so are we.  Over the years we have been coming to the Atlanta Gift Market we have figured out what works for us and usually have the same general master plan year to year.  We know which buildings and showrooms we are going to peruse on Friday, Saturday, and so forth.  One of our favorite rituals is the tradition of going to Pittypat’s Porch on Sunday night, after three long days of shopping.  Our feet are tired, our spirits are high, and we just want to reward ourselves for all our hard work.

Pittypat’s Porch is a southern style restaurant located right outside building one of the Market.  It is all about Gone With The Wind.  Aunt Pittypat herself greets you from her picture right inside the door.

There are many pictures and stills from the movie everywhere you look.  You can have your picture taken with Scarlet and Rhett.

One of the most charming features are the rocking chairs placed all around the balcony so you can sit and rock and have a drink while you are waiting for your table.

Once downstairs you are seated and water is poured for you into chilled pewter goblets.  The pewter goblets give such an added freshness.  There’s a fabulous salad bar with true southern style salads and our waiter Caleb was charming and a quick wit.  We both had filet steaks with the most incredible mashed potatoes this side of heaven.  I dream about those mashed potatoes.

This is what I dream about all day Sunday….my Mint Julep.  A trip to Atlanta wouldn’t be complete without it.  We sit and have our nice little drink and chat about all the trends we saw and the favorite things we ordered at market.  With only a half day left to shop…we are always a little sad that our time at market has gone by so quickly, but inspired by everything we have seen and ready to come back to Portland and start putting our new ideas into making Penelopes as fabulous as possible!

Thank you Atlanta for being so friendly and hospitable.  It makes our life and job so much easier.  Going to market is incredibly fun, as well as physically and mentally exhausting.  We appreciate anew each year how nice everyone is here and so willing to make it go as smoothly as possible.  From the police officers on the streets around the market directing traffic so we can safely get between the buildings, to the employees of the gift market, who always have a friendly greeting and helpful attitude.  There’s no other market like the Atlanta market.  Your southern hospitality is legendary.

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What would Rescue Her was Time Itself

 ” I wondered how often the future waits on the other side of the wall, knocking very quietly, too politely for us to hear, and I was filled with longing to reach back into my life and  inform that unhappy girl:  all around her was evidence proving her sorrows would end.  I wanted to tell her that she would be saved, but not by an act of will….what would rescue her was time itself and, above all, its inexorability, the utter impossibility of anything ever staying the same.”

—-Francine Prose, The Peaceable Kingdom

I love you Miss M…..feel better soon.

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